We all want to be successful but we get stumped by our inadequacies and inexperience. Suddenly, we don't have the confidence to push thru.
We consult with old trusty Google for advice. And most likely, you may have stumbled upon this prescription: "Fake It Till You Make It". Should you fake it to get the results you wanted?
This advice can be useful in multiple situations. Science even backed up some advantageous faking moments. For one, on a sad and gloomy day, pretending to smile can turn the tides on the rest of your 24 hours. By faking the feeling of happiness by forcing to smile first, you will feel happier in the next minutes of your day.
Another is faking confidence. When you prepared with your all for that presentation, gathered all the data, and rehearsed it a million times, we can still feel jittery a few minutes before the big public dialogue. It's understandable because this fear of public speaking is ranked even higher than the fear of death.
That self-nudge "I'm the best speaker in the world" before your presentation will really make a difference. Faking this superiority will help you brave the first few seconds of your talk until this courage resonates all throughout your presentation.
Sounds rational, right? But this faking may not be the good in all instances. These are 5 situations when you should not fake it till you make it.
Yes! You felt really great with that impacting speech. That really gave you quite a good rolling. But there is a problem when you resort to faking your confidence all the time.
Confidence is built upon multiple small wins. It's a culmination of all your hard work in the process that molded you as who you are today. You can only lie to yourself for a limited time. If you don't find who you really are and what you're capable of, it will be a really exhausting journey.
To build true confidence, you must find your wins. Find what you're really good at. Find your skills and leverage on them.
It is in building yourself to the point of knowing who you really are as a person and as a professional that can ultimately give you all the confidence you truly need.
When your boss asks you for a deliverable you don't have any clue about and you faked knowing everything with a resounding yes, your decision will come to haunt you as you make those unnecessary mistakes in the long run.
You will not only waste the time of your colleagues, but you will also lose the trust of people around you.
To avoid that, it's best to ask for help and admit that you don't know everything. Keep that humility in check and ask for guidance.
When you admit to yourself that you don't know a certain topic, it is an opportunity for you to grow further and people are more than willing to share their expertise with you.
You've been swinging it every time with your faking and you always get away with it. Mind you, this habit will not give you the success you want in the future.
Do not have that false sense of security. Do not be left out by the competition by relying on that “faking luck” alone. Opportunities are for those who did the proper preparation. Serious people are improving every day. You don't want to get left behind because of your grown complacency.
Knowledge and preparation go hand-in-hand with improving your craft. You already know what you are good at and where you want to go.
But you're always faking your expertise for people to believe in you. Time will only tell before it backfires. Instead of faking it, why not improve your craft?
Read and voraciously consume knowledge in your expertise. You can even find a mentor to support you through the way.
It will be a rough path but it’s a worthwhile invest. This time, you don't need to fake it anymore.
When you are too focused on those power poses or imposing your "importance" in the room, you might forget what's truly important.
In this age, relationship building is key. It even goes beyond just networking. But if you're too engrossed in faking to be the best person in the room, people might avoid you like the plague.
It is ok to show your vulnerabilities and imperfections. In fact, this can even make people like you more because you’re showing the real you. People value authenticity. You will be surprised at where your genuineness can lead you.
With that, I hope we all avoid faking our way to success. Let's show our most genuine self for the world to see. Ciao!